Having been raised
the larger part of my life in a country where cars and candies were the commodities
of only the rich and a place where life just wasn’t fair, I see happiness
through different lighting. My mother worked full time, went to school full
time, and raised me full time to earn a doctorate degree and a good name, both
weighed equally in Uzbekistan, only to have her business ripped right from
under her feet. Still, she remained happy. She packed up everything she owned
into a small, cherry red suitcase with a few hundred dollars in her hand, no
English in her head, but a whole mountain of determination in her heart. My
mother came to the United States to make her dreams come true for me, her only
son. After opening her own restaurant and bringing me to this new world, I saw
a true deep happiness I had never seen before.
Given my personal
experiences, I believe in two types of happiness: one that is found and one
that is made. In discussing the former, I think back to Christmas mornings when
I was little, finding that orange in my stocking and tasting the sweetest,
juiciest fruit that would make me dance around the house with a special kind of
skip in my step. When I first came to America and saw all the wonderful games
and clothes that were once a figment of my dreams now physically at the tips of
my fingers. This kind of happiness is always present and happens upon us in
moments that we reflect back on as fond bright memories. They span from the joy
of the first snow and seeing the ocean for the first time to falling for that
perfect someone. This happiness that is found is light, cheerful, bright, and exciting
like an overwhelming flood of emotion.
Amazing testimonial, Alex. Too many of us take our circumstances for granted. I wouldn't wish the kind of adversity and dislocation you describe on anyone, but on the other hand there is tremendous satisfaction to be had in "overcoming" - Nietzsche was right about that.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to your next installment, particularly any comparative observations you might offer from your distinctive pan-cultural point of view.